When Teens Talk to Parents About Technology Use

It can be difficult being a teen. You’re no longer a “kid” but not an adult either; it’s like being caught in a state of flux. Then there is the media, the peer pressure and the longing to “fit in” without standing out. When you add technology to the mix, many students (and parents) start to struggle. How much is too much? Is it safe? Is it distracting? It’s tricky.

The thing to keep in mind is that a teenagers online presence is just as important as their face-to-face presence. Many parents don’t understand this because they never experienced it themselves. Parents who lament about their teens (or tweens) always being on their devices should remember that they themselves probably spent hours on the phone talking with their friends. The difference was that phones back then didn’t have a screen and they were physically attached to the wall. Same but different - sort of.

But how do you get busy parents to give up two hours of their time in order to attend a presentation? You tell them that a panel of teens will be sharing their personal experiences and will answer questions from the audience. To be honest, this was not a novel idea, rather I learned about this format from Common Sense Media. Finding teens that were willing to answer questions and share their stories was easier than I thought. We did hand-pick students because we wanted individuals who had the maturity to speak openly, honestly and confidently to our audience. It was important that the group was diverse too; we made sure there was a wide variety of “life experience” on the panel.

The teen panel was an amazing success. The students spoke clearly and with detail as they answered fourteen different questions. I was impressed with their poise and it was interesting watching the parents; they were riveted by the responses from the seven teens who took part. The responses were completely honest and as such, a few comments raised some eyebrows.  One parent (whose daughter was on the panel) was shocked at how late into the night (morning really) her daughter had spent on social media. Overall, it was an incredibly valuable and powerful experience.

Looking back upon this night, it was the students who made it a great success. Nothing beats having authentic speakers with real life experiences. If you want to discuss teens technology use with parents, I urge you to involve students in the process. You won’t be disappointed.